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Revised Second
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PARENTS SEE
THEMSELVES AS DEVOUT CATHOLICS
BUT WHAT DO THEIR CHILDREN SEE?
Do children see their mothers and fathers living in contemplative love for God with
a faithful emotional awareness of divine presence and engaged in an all-out battle
with the evil of the world?
More often than not children don’t see living faith. They don’t see
any protection from evil. They don’t see genuine, fruitful devotion. They don’t see
genuine love for God.
Instead, they see external acts of devotion as insincere because
they see all the other things their parents do that contradict the true faith.
Thus parents lose credibility—and when parents lose credibility,
children can become cynical and angry, fall from their faith, and turn to the social
world around them for identity and acceptance. They become children who have more
concern for social acceptance than for loving God.
They are fallen children. Let’s bring them back.
CONTENTS
Preface
Part One: The Psychological Background
Background | Family Systems | Marriage | Divorce | The Role of a
Father | Anger | Domestic Violence | Child Abuse | Denial and
Lies | Lust and Violence | Shame and Guilt | Disobedience | A Lesson
from Dog Training | Physical Affection | Educating Children | Discipline:
An Overview | Punishment | Shaping Positive Behavior | Growth |
Responsibility | Boundaries | How to Say “No” to a Child | The Loss of
Innocence | Helping Children Heal
Part Two: Questions and Answers
When Children Fall | Helping a Child | Cultural Subversion | Too Busy? |
Parental Love for a Child | Breaking a Cycle of Hate | Botched | Honoring Your
Parents | Anger at Parents | Unconscious Anger | Heart Attack | Blind
to Your Own Anger | Sending Yourself to Hell | Paralyzed in a Dysfunctional
Family | Danger to Society? | Procrastination | Undoing Past Sins |
Angry Trad | Revenge Factor | Keeping the Peace | Scruples | Anger
Without Sin | Modesty | Tattoos | Discovering Masturbation | Lust and
Marriage | Angry Baptist | A Nightmare Marriage | BPD Spouse | Old
Love | The Yearning for Union | Why Marriage? | Desperate for a Child |
Career or Family?
Appendix I: Catholic Compassion
Compassion | Chastity | Responsibility | Serving the Self | Disobeying
God | Identity | To Die in All Things | The Proof
Appendix II: Borderline Personality Disorder
Introduction | BPD Symptoms | The Rage from Feeling Abandoned | The Rage
Continues: Pushing Away | “It’s Your Fault!” | The Trap of Seeking the Acceptance
of Others | To Heal the Rage | Love: The Imitation of Christ | The Mystical
Price of Love | The Hard Work of Christian Prayer
Appendix III: Healing the Lack of a Father
Appendix IV: Gratitude
Appendix V: Deliverance
Appendix VI: A Love Letter
Notes
Index
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