that has lost its meaning
is like salt that has lost its flavor.
Disasters and Trauma |
Spiritual Counsels |
Job Wasnt Self-righteous |
Beyond Our Comprehension |
A Dilemmaand a Mystery |
A Testament and a Penance |
Obedience Lets all Suffering End in Love |
A Deliberate Decision of Free Will |
The Subversion of Obedience: Quietism |
The Defeat of Satans Bet |
PLACE to turn
for an illustration of the role of suffering and obedience in spiritual healing
is the Book of Job. Now, some persons may say so, but Job wasnt a
self-righteous man. He was a man of faith, innocent of
guilt. Satan inflicted suffering
upon himwith Gods permissionas a test of Jobs
faith and loyalty to God.
Nevertheless, Jobs friends
tried to convince him that he was at fault in some way. In fact, much of
the suffering in this world is the result of personal behavior. Even
Christ, after healing someone, often said, Go, and sin no more.
In all of this, however, God does not allow us to suffer because He is being
mean to us; He allows us to suffer in order that we might admit our ultimate
helplessness in this world, recognize our sins, and
turn back to Him in true devotion.
Job remained adamant in his innocence. And throughout all the suffering heaped
upon his head, he did not commit sin.
So, what was the purpose of it
Well, notice what God said in
answer to Jobs demand for an explanation of what was happening to him.
God made no attempt to defend Himself. He simply said that He could do what
Now, that kind of statement might
sound arrogantthat is, if it came from anyone but God. So what was
God getting at here? He meant that He could do what He wants because He has
reasons for doing what He wantsworking always in pure love
for the good of all thingseven if we cannot
comprehend those reasons.
This, though, leaves us with
a dilemma. How do we know for sure whether our suffering, which is usually
the result of our own sin may be serving some other
unfathomable purpose of God? To anyone but a Christian, the answer to this question
remains a mystery. But every Christian has the answer hanging right before him:
the divine Mystery of Christ crucified. In Christ on the cross, we
comprehend perfect obedience to Gods deepest motives. On the cross,
even innocent suffering glorifies God, for it leads us to
persevere in love despite all the opposition
the world can inflict on us.
A Testament and
So when Christians suffer,
it doesnt matter whether the suffering is the consequence of their
personal sins or not. All that matters is that all suffering be accepted and
carried as ones crossas ones personal
sacrifice in the service of love. Let it be a testament to Gods glory
and a penance for all the sins that nailed Christ to the cross. Christ
endured all suffering for our redemption, so, as we bear
our suffering gracefully, we share the burden of the cross with Christ. Let all
suffering cause us to be attentive to the presence of God. Let all suffering lead
us to deep sorrow for sin. Let all suffering end in love.
Moreover, never forget that your tears are
prayers. Although your suffering does not have any redemptive valuethat
is, it does not make things right between you and God, nor does it
make you special in Gods eyesyour ability to suffer
gracefully will lead to your spiritual growth. Let God, then, do what He will to
transform your suffering into courage and perseverance and trust.
There is but
one price at which souls are bought, and that is
suffering united to My suffering on the cross. Pure
love understands these words; carnal love will never understand
told to St.
Faustina by Jesus
all Suffering End in Love
Let all suffering end in
Thats how the Book of Job ends. Job recognizes his
mistake of falling into distress because of his suffering. He submits to Gods
will in total obedience. He therein discovers love, because
an essential aspect of love is obedience. Christ told His
Apostles that, if they loved Him, they would keep His commandments (John
14:15). And, as He told Saint Margaret Mary, He loves obedience, and no one
can please Him without it (Autobiography, 47). Love means to accept
Gods will totally, without complaining that it is too difficult, or
too inconvenient, or not relevant to the modern world.
If, when we shall
arrive at St. Mary of the Angels, all drenched with rain and trembling with
cold, all covered with mud and exhausted from hunger; if, when we knock at
the convent-gate, the porter . . . refuse to open to us, and leave
us outside, exposed to the snow and rain, suffering from cold and hunger till
nightfallthen, if we accept such injustice, such cruelty and such contempt
with patience, without being ruffled and without murmuring . . .
write down, O Brother Leo, that this is perfect joy. And if . . .
taking a knotted stick, he seize us by the hood, throwing us on the ground,
rolling us in the snow, and shall beat and wound us with the knots in the
stickif we bear all these injuries with patience and joy, thinking
of the sufferings of our Blessed Lord, which we would share out of love for
him, write, O Brother Leo, that here, finally, is perfect joy.
Saint Francis of Assisi
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Decision of Free Will
Job was chosen by God to teach us
an important lesson about suffering: suffering cannot end in love unless
it begins as a deliberate decision of
free will. Thereforeand pay
attention here, because this is subtle, but importantunless you understand how
much you dont want to do
something, your doing it is not an act of love.
This fact was
made evident by Christ in the Garden of Gethsemane when He stated
to the Father that He did not want to take up the cup of His Passion,
but that, if it were the Fathers will, He would do it
anyway (Matthew 26:36-46; Mark 14:32-42;
Now, for most individuals who
think they know how to love, and who think they live holy lives,
doing the will of God. Moreover, this resistance will be expressed
unconsciouslythat is, outside their conscious
awareness. This is what makes the resistance so insidious; on the surface,
everything seems perfectly loving, and yet grave impediments
to charity lurk silently in the dark corners of their hearts.
can be uncovered only through careful psychological attention to the
fantasies that run constantly through your mind.
Its hard work, because most of those fantasies seem so ugly that you
would not want to confess them even to a confessor
or psychotherapist. But if you face up to them, and if you do the work to
overcome them, you are laying the foundations of real love.
of Obedience: Quietism
Its simply a psychological
fact that no one enjoys suffering. Even
masochists, who seem to enjoy pain, dont
really desire pain per se; they really desire the hope of being admired
because of their willingness to allow themselves to be humiliated. Moreover,
not only do we not enjoy suffering, we make heroes of those who seem
to escape it. Our personal fantasies and
social entertainments glamorize Eastern sages,
fierce warriors, and mythical sorcerers. The psychological appeal of such figures
is that they appear to possess an otherworldly power that transcends personal
When expressed spiritually, this
desire to transcend personal limitations has been exemplified through the
ages by a doctrine called Quietism. And, through the ages, the various forms
of Quietism have been condemned by the Church as false
On the one hand,
Quietism is exemplified by non-Christian philosophies such as Buddhism
and all other natural philosophies that attempt to avoid suffering as something
evil and that teach an indifference to personal experience as a way to attain
On the other hand,
Quietism is exemplified in so-called Christian thought by
mystics who advocate self-abandonment
to inner illumination, along with a passive acceptance of everything, considering
the entire process to be a veiled purification of the soul.
Whatever its outward form, Quietism
essentially teaches that a person can attain to identification with the divine
by living totally in the moment with indifference to all worldly
experienceseven with indifference to the
responsibility for distinguishing right from
Thus you can
find even Catholic writers claiming that a person may be moved
by feelings contrary to virtuefeelings such as obstinacy, disobedience,
troublesomeness, contempt, and indignationand yet be passively
participating in Gods design for union with
Well, this sort of thinking only
makes you a dupe of your unconscious such that you lie to yourself
psychologically. All the while that you are praising yourself for being detached,
obedient, and holy, you have a tempest of non-virtuous behaviors pouring
from your heart, protesting Gods will.
Therefore, the error of Quietism
should be apparent: indifference leads to ignorance, ignorance of your
motivation makes love impossible, and, when
love is impossible, obedience is obedience only to
The Defeat of
When suffering becomes
love, however, then all of Satans tricks and
temptations get thrown right back into his face. And thats why God
accepted Satans bet and allowed him to put Job to the test. Job
wasnt self-righteousSatan was. Satan, in all his roaming
the earth and patrolling it, sought nothing but his own glory. The
defeat of Satans self-righteous wager by Jobs obedience was the
perfect foreshadowing of Christs perfect obedience in His Passion and
His final victory over sin and death and all the
suffering they cause.
Yes, when you
are obedient I take away your weakness and replace it with My strength. I
am very surprised that souls do not want to make that exchange with
told to St.
Faustina by Jesus
In the Gospels, Jesus spoke about
willingly going two miles with a Roman soldier who commands you to carry
his baggage for one mile. Christ is describing here an impossible
circumstance; that is, in world of His time, an individual had no choice
but to obey a Roman soldier.
Nevertheless, there are circumstances
other than impossible circumstances, circumstances in which we do have the
power to change things. Consequentlyespecially in regard to our
sufferingit is important to have the wisdom to know the difference
between what you can change and what you cannot change.
For example, on the one hand,
when another driver does something rude to you on the road, it is best to
remain quiet and suffer (and pray for the repentance of the offender) in
silence because you have no way of communicating politely with the other driver.
On the other hand, if you buy
an item that turns out to be defective, you can return it and ask for a refund
or exchange. You dont have to be a doormat and let others
walk all over you; such behavior is masochism, not
When you accept
suffering patiently and willingly for the sake of the salvation of others,
that is love. When you bring suffering on yourself in order to win
the approval of some other person, that is masochism.
Or, again, when someone next
to you in church is speaking loudly, you can tell those persons to be quiet.
If they apologize and quiet down, then all is well, and you have exercised
your wisdom. If they tell you to go to hell, however, then a circumstance
in which you originally had the power to do something has suddenly become
an impossible circumstance, and it would be best now to suffer in
silence and pray for the enlightenment and repentance of the
Therefore, in all things, pray
for the wisdom to know the difference between what you can change and what
you cannot change. When you find yourself in circumstances that you can change,
go about the work with kindness and
patience. And when you find yourself in circumstances that you cannot
change, learn to suffer obediently, with love.
Consider it all
joy, my brothers, when you encounter various trials, for you know that the
testing of your faith produces perseverance. And let perseverance be perfect,
so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
1. And here it ought to be pointed out why
so few reach this high state of perfect union with God. It should be known
that the reason is not that God wishes only a few of these spirits to be
so elevated; he would rather want all to be perfect, but he finds few vessels
that will endure so lofty and sublime a work. . . . There
are many who desire to advance and persistently beseech God to bring them
to this state of perfection. Yet when God wills to conduct them through the
initial trials and mortifications, as is necessary, they are unwilling to
suffer them and they shun them, flee from the narrow road of life [Mt. 7:14]
and seek the broad road of their own consolation, which is that of their
own perdition [Mt. 7:13]; thus they do not allow God to begin to grant their
petition. They are like useless containers, for although they desire to reach
the state of the perfect they do not want to be guided by the path of trials
that leads to it. They hardly even begin to walk along this road by submitting
to what is least, that is, to ordinary sufferings (Saint John of the
Living Flame of Love, Stanza 2.27).
2. See Jean-Pierre de Caussade, The Joy of
Full Surrender (Paraclete Press: 2008), p. 113. (Note that the original
title of Caussades work had a Quietist sound: Abandonment to Divine
3. Willingly carrying the soldiers baggage
for two miles, rather than the one mile demanded of you, gives you psychological
command of the situation and thus saves you from falling into the trap of
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