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How do you live in San Francisco and have such a trite understanding of feminism? Catholicism makes little room for the thinking woman or for that matter the thinking man. The request of equality is a basic one and is not based on making God pay. . . . Denial and love are not one. Life is about living not abstaining. You are one of the non-adaptive, narrow-minded interpreters of the tradition and history that make Catholicism ritualistic, patriarchal and hierarchical.

Outline of the Answer
• Feminism
• Shaking Off the Supernatural
• The Dignity of Male and Female
• The Bond of Holy Matrimony
• Your Cross

Actually, if you really dare to think about it, for ages men have been saying, “Life is about living, not abstaining” and women (or for that matter, other men, especially in San Francisco) have been paying the price all along.

And so it is precisely because I live in San Francisco that I understand feminism so profoundly. I have seen first-hand that feminism does not liberate women. It does not free them from anything. Because of spiritual blindness—the same spiritual blindness that caused you to write to me with such hatred in your heart—the advocates of feminism blindly enslave women to the devil as his prostitutes.

Shaking Off the Supernatural

Saint Paul wrote (1 Timothy 2:9) that a woman should adorn herself with modesty and chastity. Saint Peter wrote (1 Peter 3:4) that a woman should adorn herself with a gentle and calm disposition. Yet the proponents of feminism teach women to forsake feminine modesty, throw off the yoke of the “supernatural,” and adorn themselves with lust and anger. To get on the fast track of social success, women are encouraged to compete with men by dressing in the same uniforms as men, to compete with other women as sex objects, and to compete with both men and women in business by acting like hostile, cold-hearted men.

But what happens when the supernatural is thrown aside as an impediment? Children are emotionally neglected and denied the gentle care of a mother’s arms, men lose respect for women, and women lose their dignity. Duped by the ideology of anti-Catholic feminist beliefs, women still fight the spiritual battle against evil, but they fight on the side of evil.

The Dignity of Male and Female

Now, if you dare to look at tradition with an open mind, you will find that God, with an “open mind,” created men and women equal. In Genesis 1:27 we read that God created man, and that “man” is male and female. Moreover, in Genesis 2:18 ff. we read about God’s plan for those male and female individuals: God wanted to give “the man” a “partner.” Notice this carefully. God made the woman to be a partner—not a slave and not a playmate—for the man.

Christ, therefore, insisted on the dignity of human relations. We read in Matthew 5:28 that He even raised lust to the level of the high sin of adultery. Moreover, Christ taught that neither spouse in marriage should be seen as mere property and that the bond between the husband and wife cannot be broken as if one person were legally disposing of property.

The early Church said nothing to contradict the equality of men and women. Ephesians 5:21 instructs all Christians to “be subordinate to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Only in Holy Matrimony—not in any other social relationship—are wives specifically instructed to be subordinate to their husbands (Ephesians 5:22; Colossians 3:18; 1 Peter 3:1), but husbands are instructed to treat their wives with love (Ephesians 5:28)—and real love, if you think about it, demands equality.

So why must there be subordination in marriage?

The Bond of Holy Matrimony

The bond of Holy Matrimony reflects the loving bond between Christ and His Church: the man represents Christ, and the woman represents the Church who must be obedient to Him.


In all of nature, a male fertilizes a female’s egg so that the egg can grow and develop into an independent organism. For humans in particular, the woman nurtures and protects the baby as it grows within her body; then, as the child becomes independent from its mother, the man provides the guidance and instruction of a father to prepare the child to function productively in the world in service to God the Father.

This natural, reproductive function between a man and a woman serves as a signification for Christ’s relation to His Church: Christ provides Sacramental “fertilization” to souls so that they can grow and develop within our mother the Church, and, ultimately, after death be received into the Father’s presence forever.


Your Cross

So why are you so sensitive to hypocrisy? Well, look to your own parents, who, in their emotional dishonesty failed you and hurt you miserably. Your anger at your parents—especially your father—has been misdirected at the Church. The Church is filled with hypocrites. But the real, mystical Church is pure. If you want more than your own trite understanding of Christianity, then let the pain of your childhood—a pain put upon you unwillingly—be your cross, and let it be joined to the Cross itself, which Christ took up willingly.

Yes, you could complain in bitterness that you’re not getting what you want from life, but if you think about it, the purpose of life is not to get what you want by denying the cross because you don’t want to deny yourself. The purpose of life is to serve God with pure love, regardless of what happens to you or how the world treats you, so that your sacrifices can help to lead others to true healing from the bitterness they feel about their emotional pain. Genuine Catholicism is about healing, but the ideology of feminism is about hatred—as you, in your own words, have shown.


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