Night Prayer of the Liturgy of the Hours, I wonder
about the passage that says to let your anger be without sin.
Then it talks about wrath and not letting the devil work on you. What does
that all mean? I thought wrath was sin, so what is anger without
he passage to which you refer is
found in Night Prayer for Wednesdays and it comes from Ephesians 4:2627.
An adequate explanation of the passage depends not so much on theology
but on an understanding of the psychology of anger. Thus, to explain
the passage, we need to distinguish anger as a feeling of
irritation (i.e., pseudoanger) from genuine anger as a desire for
as a Feeling
Whenever someone or something
obstructs you or hurts you in some way, you will experience an immediate
response. This response begins when your brain, perceiving a threat to your
safety or well-beingand completely outside your conscious
awarenesssends stress hormones surging through your body. Then, as
your conscious mind starts to process the situation, you will experience
some noticeable emotions, such as irritation and
Now, so far, this collection
of feelings is a self-defensive response to a perceived threat. Its
a warning sign, as it were, that you are being threatened and that you need to protect
yourself. Traditionally, when someone feels this way, we will say that he
or she is feeling angry. But this feeling isnt a sin because,
in psychological language, this is a feeling of irritation, not real
Anger as a Desire
When you allow your feelings
of irritation to go a step beyond mere feelings and progress into the realm of
desire for revenge, you enter into
sin. This revenge is an expression of
hatred because it seeks the others harm
rather than the others good.
Just as love is
not a feeling but an act of the will (i.e., to wish anothers
anger, too, is not a feeling but an act of the will (i.e., to wish harm to come upon
As long as the desire for revenge
stays in your imagination it is a venial sin
that can be absolved with perfect contrition; that is, once you recognize
the desire, you can renounce it as disordered and wrong while calling upon God
to have mercy on you; then you can
give the injury over to Gods justice knowing that
the offender will have to answer to God for the offense committed against you.
You can also pray that the offender will ultimately acknowledge and repent his
mortal sin when you actually inflict hurt on
someone in return for the hurt inflicted on you.
For example, if you
were driving a car and another driver did something rude to you, you would feel
irritated and maybe even threatened. If you silently muttered an insult to the
other driver, that would be a venial sin, and it could be corrected with heartfelt
contrition. If, however, you screamed a curse at the other driver or made an insulting
gesture, you would have progressed from an imagined insult to an actual insult, and
that would be a mortal sin. In the Catholic faith, a mortal sin requires
confession to a priest to be absolved.
Note that revenge can be carried
out either as a calm, calculated act or as a impetuous, emotionally charged
act. Traditionally, this latter case has been called wrath.
But either waywhether
unconscious, calculated, or impetuouscarrying out this anger is
a grave sin.
Because revenge is an act of
hatred, it stands in opposition to love, and, in standing
in opposition to love, it stands opposed to Gods will. Notice here
that the devil fell from grace because he refused to do Gods will;
consequently, all desire for revenge opens the door to
demonic influence because all desire for revenge refuses
to do Gods will. Thus, to progress from anger as a feeling into
anger as a desire for revenge is to allow the devil to work in
Resist Him, Solid
in Your Faith
In Night Prayer for Tuesdays
we are reminded, from 1 Peter 5:89a, that the devil is prowling
like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. Then we are told,
Resist him, solid in your
So what does this tell you about
how to prevent your anger from becoming a grave sin? Well, the answer is simple:
to resist the desire for revenge is to remain solid in your faith by doing
what Christ told us to do: bless your enemies rather than curse
Therefore, when others obstruct
you or hurt you, acknowledge the feelings of irritation that tell you that
you have been hurt, admit that the desire to harm someone is wrong, and then,
rather than seek revenge, pray for the good of the
offenders (i.e., for their enlightenment and repentance).
If the injury was
accidental, endeavor to put yourself in the place of the other so
as see things from his view and pray that he might acquire better judgment
in the future.
If the injury was
intentional, pray for the other that he
will repent his sins, and then trust that
God will administer perfect justice in the
1. Here are some examples of similar emotions:
aggravated, annoyed, bothered, cross, displeased, distressed, exasperated,
frustrated, goaded, grumpy, impatient, offended, overwrought, peeved, provoked,
shaky, strained, tense, troubled, uncomfortable, upset, or vexed.
2. Is anger ever justifiable? Well, when anger
is really a feeling of irritation, then it is justifiable, because all irritation
is a feeling, and all feelings are justifiable. But anger in its true sensethat is,
a desire for revengecannot be justifiable as a Christian act. “But I say to
you, whoever is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment” (Matthew 5:22). Christ
told us to give a blessing to our enemies, not to get even with them. Moreover, Christ
never sought revenge on anyone, not even on those who ridiculed and killed
3. St. Thomas Aquinas, Summa Theologica.
I-II, 26, 4.
4. In practical terms, this takes four steps:
(a) notice that you feel irritated; (b) recognize the
fantasies of revenge going through your mind;
(c) admit that those fantasies are evil desires; and (d) reject those fantasies
by praying for the courage to be patient and forgivingthat is, to love,
rather than to hateand to leave justice to God.
Sending yourself to hell to prove that someone
has hurt you
Blind to your own anger
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